Does anxiety ever keep you from doing what you want to do or need to do? You are not alone. Many people are bullied by anxiety.
Anxiety may be keeping you from speaking up at work, saying "hi" to a potential new friend, asking the boss for a raise, or getting in an elevator. There are many more examples that may apply to you. In short, anxiety can paralyze you, making you too afraid to go after your goals. You can break free from the tyranny of anxiety by changing two things--your thoughts and your actions. This is simple but not easy. You may not be aware that some of your thoughts are "anxiety friendly," or how to change them. It may be scary to break ingrained habits and try new ways of doing things. There are powerful strategies from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) that can help you. These strategies can help you change how you think about things you fear, and find the courage to change your habit of avoiding them. Changing your thoughts and actions can be broken down into 3 simple steps. 1. Observe and Record Your Anxious Thoughts To change your thoughts, you first need to know which thoughts need changing. One strategy is to notice, and write down, all the thoughts that come up when you are feeling anxious about something. For example:
2. How to Change Your Thoughts to Reduce Anxiety You can ask yourself if your anxious thoughts are 100% true. Most likely, there are shades of gray to the situation, and it is not all black or white. Try replacing each of these thoughts with a more realistic thought that is believable to you. The new thoughts do not have to be 100% positive. They just need to be more realistic thoughts that you can believe in. These replacement thoughts can lower your anxiety, and act as a bridge toward more positive experiences and hopeful expectations. Some possible replacement thoughts are:
3. How to Change Your Actions to Reduce Anxiety To overcome anxiety and build confidence, it is essential that you do the very thing that you are afraid to do (assuming it is not something that is truly dangerous). Confidence comes from practice, over and over again. Only then will your anxiety level go down. Waiting to feel confident does not help. You must act, even though you feel anxious. CBT refers to this strategy as exposure. If you expose yourself to a feared event, in spite of starting off anxious, you can desensitize yourself to the event, so it no longer causes you anxiety. You can expose yourself to the feared, avoided situation by either wading in gradually, or jumping right in. Both ways work, for different people and in different situations. The idea is to approach the situation that makes you anxious, and suffer through the anxiety until it wears itself out, to desensitize yourself to the situation. Examples of Exposure to Reduce Anxiety in 3 Situations For each example, I will give 2 examples: one for exposure through wading in, and one for exposure through jumping in. 1. Approaching a Potential New Friend
Self Help Books I Recommend You can learn more about CBT through self help books. I recommend these 3:
How Therapy Can Help A therapist can help you to implement these ideas in these ways:
In Conclusion I hope this article about CBT strategies for reducing anxiety is helpful to you. This article is not intended to diagnose or treat a mental health condition. It is intended as an introduction to CBT, and to present a few examples of how CBT strategies can help lower anxiety. Take Your Next Step Call me at (310) 658-3158 to discuss how we could work together. Peace, Kate Kate Boswell MFT is a Los Angeles based therapist in Marina del Rey, CA. She helps anxious young men and women become more confident and brave in going after their goals. Nearby communities served are Playa del Rey, Playa Vista, Del Rey, Mar Vista, Venice, Culver City, and Westchester. Kate can be reached at (310) 658-3158. Comments are closed.
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